Let’s be real! Most of us have heard a Christian woman say, “I’m just waiting on my Boaz” when referencing her state of singleness. And to be completely honest, I once had this mentality as well. It was simply a way of suggesting that I am waiting for a man to come into my life romantically. But there’s a problem with this mentality…
It’s not Biblical!
Let me explain what I mean…While the motive behind the words is pure and genuine, we must understand what we are suggesting when we say this. For those who do not know who Boaz is, he is the man who married Ruth, the namesake of one of the Historical books of the Old Testament. And while it sounds nice to say you’re waiting on your Boaz because what you’re trying to express is that you want a man of God, one must take in mind what Ruth’s story is about…
To begin, Boaz was not Ruth’s first husband (Ruth 1:3-5)! Scripture tells us that Ruth’s first husband died and rather than leaving her mother in-law (Naomi), she accompanied her to Bethlehem. Now, according to the tradition of that time, a kinsman-redeemer is a close relative who basically avenges or defends a relative who is in trouble. Being that Ruth (and Naomi) had become a widow, she was in danger of suffering! Thus, she was in need of a redeemer to “save” her. This is probably why Naomi, old in age (4:15), reminded Ruth that Boaz was one of their redeemers (2:20). So Ruth goes to uncover and lay at Boaz’s feet late at night. Upon being discovered, she asked Boaz to redeem her (3:9).
Not much waiting in that now is there?
After this, Boaz informs Ruth that there is another redeemer who has a right to redeem her before him and if he chose to, he could be the one to take the responsibility (3:12). It turned out that the other relative refused and Boaz then fulfilled the role as kinsman redeemer for Ruth.
Now what does this mean for us?
I think the essential message of this book is to demonstrate what the townswomen said about God to Naomi in 4:14, “Blessed be the LORD, who has not left you this day without a redeemer…” In essence, I believe this book demonstrates that God will not leave His people destitute. But that He would provide a redeemer to save those who are in trouble. (Maybe this gives us a picture of the role Christ would eventually come to fulfill in the world?)
So let us keep in mind that when we say that we are “waiting for our Boaz,” we are technically saying that we need to be saved from destitution. Christ fulfills this role for those who believe in Him (John 3:16). Plus, Ruth didn’t do much waiting considering the fact that she’s the one who went to Boaz to ask him to redeem her!
So while “waiting for your Boaz” sounds nice, it’s not really a realistic picture for what we mean when we say it. Rather, we should just say that we have not yet found someone that we would like to marry yet. Simply put…you’re single!