All The Single Ladies

This morning I woke up early and brewed a cup of coffee. I poured it into my current favorite mug. It’s my favorite because on it is the phrase, “I don’t give a sip.” Cute right?

After climbing the stairs and getting back in the bed, I started reading a book titled, “Having a Mary Heart in a Martha World” by Joanna Weaver. In it, she begins by giving examples of the everyday life of modern day Martha. Martha the wife. Martha the mother. Martha the business woman. Martha the believer. Martha the server. Martha was and is a busy woman!
And while I can testify to being busy, I cannot say that I understand this version of Martha. For, I am not a wife nor am I a mom. In fact, I am a very single woman with responsibilities not as weighty. I have the freedom to come and go as I please. For instance, I moved from Cleveland, OH to New York to get my BA and this fall will be moving to North Carolina to begin my Master’s degree! If I was a wife and mom, this unstable way of living would not fly!
Now, don’t get me wrong, it is very possible to be a single Martha! I am single and yet this coming fall I will carry the titles, minister, student, and worker. So I know full well how possible it is to be single and BUSY!
However, imagine if I added wife and mother to that roster of titles! Yikes!
And to be clear, I desire to be married and to start a family. But this morning as I read, I realized how free my life is right now! I have freedom to be Mary in a way that I won’t once I am married. 
Even Paul talks about the freedom that we, as single women, have in 1 Corinthians 7:34 when he says, “…And the unmarried or betrothed woman is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to be holy in body and spirit. But the married woman is anxious about worldly things, how to please her husband.”
This realization gave me a peace with my singleness that I have, on an off, struggled with over the years. It helped me to realize that there is no sense in rushing to the commitment of marriage. Instead, I should enjoy being Mary in this stage of my life.
Now, I don’t know if Martha in Luke 10 was married. In fact, I kind of doubt it because of her living situation. But the Bible describes her as being, “distracted with much serving…” (v.40). If this be the case, this means that it is possible to be distracted with work even in your singleness. And Jesus makes it clear that Mary’s decision to sit at His feet was the better thing to do.
Does this mean that working is a bad thing? Absolutely not! Hospitality was important in that day! But what it means is that there needs to be a balance. And I believe that your worship ought to be the fuel that you need to get your work motor running!
So, if you’re a single Martha out there like me, appreciate this time! Take full advantage of being Mary in the morning and Martha during the day! And learn now the importance of balance! Because if we’re distracted now by the demands of life, it will only get worse once we add the commitments of wife and mom to our repertoire.
The Martha that learns to be Mary in her singleness will be better equipped to be both in her marriage!


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